Wednesday, October 8, 2008

not the news we wanted

Well...it is official. Our dossier (paperwork) was returned to the US last week. Our adoption agency called us Friday, to tell us that they had received it. They went over some options with us...one being, changing country programs. Russia, which could be up to 2 years for a boy and up to 5 years for a girl. Ethiopia, which is becoming more and more popular, so the wait time will more than likely continue to increase for this country as well.

We have decided not to pursue another adoption at this point. It is hard to explain because the whole process is just soooo complex. There are a lot of gray areas. We have invested LOTS of time (21 months) and emotions into this. It is such a slap in the face to have come this far, then at the drop of a hat, Kaz can decide to change their rules and not even consider people who HAD ALREADY BEEN ACCEPTED. VERY frustrating to say the least. We were SOOOO CLOSE, we were expecting "the call" anyday, then it was snatched away from us and we had NO SAY WHATSOEVER. There is no one to blame except for the Kaz gov't (who by the way, thinks this is in the best interest of the children?.?.?.?.?.?) Is it really in the best interest of the children to deny them a forever family? THOUSANDS of innocent children who were so close to having a forever family, will now have to WAIT, WAIT, and WAIT some more.

We will keep all of you posted. Thanks so much to all of you who have been so supportive of us and the decision to add to our family by adopting. We know that we want to adopt in the future, it's just for now, we need some time. We know that this was out of our control, and that there was nothing we could have done to change the outcome, but for some reason, we still feel like we have let so many down. I know that's crazy, but there are A LOT of emotions and thoughts swirling around here!

We just want to thank everyone who wished us well and who supported our decision to adopt. You will never know how much it meant to us.